Please help

[Frackal]

Though I feel marginally bad about airing our buisness on the board, she said she will not visit it again so I guess what I am about to disclose does not matter.

Today, just a few minutes ago, Kartchick broke up with me. The reasons are financial and a fairly dangerous ex-husband, she is not an evil person but my heart is literally shattered. I spent a fair amount of time over the toilet because i felt like I would vomit but thankfully I did not.

You see, I loved this person more than anything, and I was willing to do anything to be with her. I have a fair amount of extra money now and I believe that I will spend it on another cycle in the within 2 months from now because I don't know what else to do.

Please for anyone who's heart has been broken this severely tell me what to do.

Please also do not trivialize my feelings for her because we met on the net. I loved her with my whole heart and then some and was willing to accept her child, her 10 years older age, and leaving everything behind to be with her...this is not insanity, it is love.

 

[Frackal]

PS- George Spellwin if/when you read this I'd sure like to change my avatar as you can imagine, but it won't let me.

 

[madbomber31]

frackal... this is far easier said than done but... you will be alright.. my heart was shattered a few months back, actually i let it happen over and over... long distance is not easy... you had too many strikes against you to start...

oh, i was a doubter with many others... before anyone says it.. please dont say i told you so to the guy, we've all been broken before...

frack, sorry dude.

 

[TheSalami]

you are a young muscular guy. you will find someone else.

 

[Milhouse]

Sorry to hear that bro,

Not much you can do except keep busy(very important) doing things you love to do. Also anything you haven't done in a while or though of doing and never done weel now it's time to do it.
That and a little time, not too much because life will pass you by and you'll be fine.

Not to make light of things but what works well for me is going out with the most piggish guys you know, getting hammered and checking out strippers helps too.

 

[Frackal]

Well madbomber, I hate to say that you were right, but I guess you were, I felt such a strong love could overcome all of this but I suppose it could not.

Millhouse, I don't drink, but I do plan to juice my ass off and do the only other thing that mattered to me besides her which is bodybuilding, which I will pour my every energy into.

 

[madbomber31]

according to "friends" strippers are phase 3... he is still on phase one... give him time.

by the way frack, you can think of it like this: she is in her late 20's... that means she has only 8-10 good years left... you would still be able to pull hot chicks in 10 years... so think of it as she is prolonging your ability to nail hot chicks...

also, what will you do about school now? werent you planning to attend there>?

and finally, she may be using her ex as an excuse and an escape for one reason or another... chicks do some funky shit.

 

[danielson]

chicks do some funky shit.

agreed

it seems a little cold and harsh now, but maybe this was for the better. she is older, and has a kid, that can mean a lot of complications for a guy ur age, still in education. given that her job with her pops has (from what ive read) been very insecure, lord knows wat would have happened in the future.

still, the best thing IMHO is just to cut it clean now, dont go back, if she wants to remain friends she'll contact u, and dont try and hunt out the ex or anything like that, it migh make matters worse. its just best to leave it.

sorry dude, but im sure u'll get over it soon

 

[TxLonghorn]

... chicks do some funky shit.

They sure do.

As for being heartbroken, it will probably happen again, and it won't be any easier then, either. It is like coping with a loved one's death. Because that is exactly what happens. The person who you loved, cherished, obsessed over, etc. is no longer there. Period. That is death.

And the only thing that helps is just time. Not other chicks (tried that), not roommates or sisters of the chick, nothing speeds it up. Drinking doesn't help.

It just flat out sucks. I am sorry, I wish there were some words of wisdom or platitudes that would ease the pain, but this is something that will just be overcome in time. And never forgotten. Both the good and bad times.

Good luck.

 

[Milhouse]

What madbomber said I agree with 100%

Except phase 3, I musta jumped Phase 2 because I was looking at strippers by the end of the first week.
Then again my last relationship was pretty much finished just not officially months b4 we broke up.

I'll toast a drink for ya Frackal, I have some absolute and Ice Blue Rasberry Sugar Free Koolaid chillin in the freezer.

Gettin hardcore in the gym, get a kick ass degree in school and make yourself a total success, thats the best for ya to do.