Does anyone else worry about their parents' health

[Fast Twitch Fiber]

My old man is having some blood pressure problems. He's almost 65. He's on medication for it but it is not working too well. His BP will be high in the morning and then it drops too low in the evening. I don't know what kind of help to give him. He works out 6 days a week and eats an OK diet. However, he is under a lot of stress due to my grandma's declining health. She's 87 and has had at least 2 strokes and has an aneurism building. She's also suffering from dementia. Anyway, she won't go to a nursing home and insists on living by herself but dad has to constantly take care of her. I think the stress of taking care of her is hurting his health.

Anyway it's really got me bugged especially cuz my grandpa died suddenly of a heart attack at 64.

Does anyone else worry a lot about these things?

 

[biteme]

My old man is having some blood pressure problems. He's almost 65. He's on medication for it but it is not working too well. His BP will be high in the morning and then it drops too low in the evening. I don't know what kind of help to give him. He works out 6 days a week and eats an OK diet. However, he is under a lot of stress due to my grandma's declining health. She's 87 and has had at least 2 strokes and has an aneurism building. She's also suffering from dementia. Anyway, she won't go to a nursing home and insists on living by herself but dad has to constantly take care of her. I think the stress of taking care of her is hurting his health.

Anyway it's really got me bugged especially cuz my grandpa died suddenly of a heart attack at 64.

Does anyone else worry a lot about these things?

Sorry to hear. Yes. My parents went from being relatively wealthy, to living in a motorhome. It's very disturbing. Right now, they are living in my back yard in their motorhome. They plan on having a house built, but I don't know when or how they will come up with the money. My dad has Parkinson's disease and his medical bills are staggering and he has insurance. His medicine alone cost him over 600$ month I believe and that's after coverage. My mother's health is not very good either. My grandmother lived by herself until she was 85. She fell and cracked her head and couldn't get up, my Aunt found her the next day. She now lives with my aunt. Sorry to depress everyone, but you're all gonna die and it's not far away. Better figure out what matters most.

 

[gonelifting]

My turn? My father went for a brain MRI this morning. He falls down 2 or 3 times a day now. They think it might be his balance or I'm thinking it's definately his lack of strenfth. He's very skinny and has no strength. He's 75 yo and sleeps all the time, I think he's depressed. He also lost control of his bladder about 2 weeks ago. My mother is losing 10 pounds a week taking care of him. They're both declining pretty fast at this rate.

Too much more to list... that's enough for now.

 

[KillzwithPillz]

I worry about everything, I dread the day they go, pops getting old and he is losing his memory doc say its not Alzheimer's but i wonder. moms good.

 

[Testosterone boy]

My dad has been struggling as of late.

The revelations about gov "tampering and intimidation" are hard on an 83 year old man. He fought for freedom in WWII....not this. Mom seems to find it all exciting.

I waited 4.5 years to break out a lot of the news.

 

[Smurfy]

yeah i worry about my dad since he had open heart last summer to repair an aneurism in the aeorta. his BP is still high and he stays tired and gets chest pains. Im afraid one day he's going to fucking collapse and just be dead.

 

[SoKlueles]

My mom had open heart surgery last year around christmas time, she had 4 blockages and she was only 54 years old....its hereditary
she also has high bp and a bad thyroid
my dad seems healthy as a horse tho which is good

 

[jaded]

I do.

My parents aren't that old - my mom is 46 and my dad is 47. But, over the last year and a half my dad has developed high blood pressure and is now borderline diabetic. My dad was always very healthy and active, and he actually is still very active but I worry about his health since it's deteriorated as of late. My dad gets stressed easily and I don't think that helps the high blood pressure very much.

My mom was in decent health but she's had health problems as of late. She actually went for a colonoscopy today. They found a growth in her stomach and it's being biopsied but we have to wait 2 weeks for the results to come back. The thing with my mom is that she's a workaholic. She's up at 5:30 every morning, no matter what time she went to bed, she'll work late, and then when she comes home she'll be working at home till she goes to bed. A lot of times she's put work before her health, failing to go to the doctors when necessary because she's busy with work, etc. Lately she's been taking more time for herself and putting her health first, though, so I'm happy about that. Hopefully her biopsy results will come back alright. *crosses fingers*

 

[SoKlueles]

I do.

My parents aren't that old - my mom is 46 and my dad is 47. But, over the last year and a half my dad has developed high blood pressure and is now borderline diabetic. My dad was always very healthy and active, and he actually is still very active but I worry about his health since it's deteriorated as of late. My dad gets stressed easily and I don't think that helps the high blood pressure very much.

My mom was in decent health but she's had health problems as of late. She actually went for a colonoscopy today. They found a growth in her stomach and it's being biopsied but we have to wait 2 weeks for the results to come back. The thing with my mom is that she's a workaholic. She's up at 5:30 every morning, no matter what time she went to bed, she'll work late, and then when she comes home she'll be working at home till she goes to bed. A lot of times she's put work before her health, failing to go to the doctors when necessary because she's busy with work, etc. Lately she's been taking more time for herself and putting her health first, though, so I'm happy about that. Hopefully her biopsy results will come back alright. *crosses fingers*

good luck sweety

 

[jaded]

good luck sweety

Thank you

 

[slat1]

Both my parents are in their 60's now. My father has high BP... my mother is constantly nagging him about diet and exercize. It raises my BP listening to her. I can only imagine what it does to my father. He is on medication and it is getting worse.
My mother is having eye trouble. She is seeing strobe like flashes of light during the day. She is out there anyway. She could have a stroke and nobody would notice a difference in behavior.
I work with my father. I tend to forget he will be 70 in 5 years!

 

[theoak01]

I worry about my dad all the time,he eats like shit,doesnt exercise and smokes,and heart problems run in our family so he needs to be fucking taking care of himself,but he doesnt,I even pay for his gym membership but he doesnt use it

 

[JayC9]

constantly

 

[jenscats5]

I do.

My parents aren't that old - my mom is 46 and my dad is 47.

My husband will be 45 in October.... Actually he has borderline high cholesterol which I'm worried about, especially after his blood clot 4 years ago....I'm worried about a reoccurance of that....

But, yes, it's disturbing when your parents' health declines -- I lost both my parents before I was 30 and it's very hard.....

 

[PICK3]

My husband will be 45 in October.... Actually he has borderline high cholesterol which I'm worried about, especially after his blood clot 4 years ago....I'm worried about a reoccurance of that....

But, yes, it's disturbing when your parents' health declines -- I lost both my parents before I was 30 and it's very hard.....

What caused his blood clot?

 

[jenscats5]

What caused his blood clot?

It appeared to be a "physical anomoly." His leg vein was clotted from the foot up to the iliac. The ven in the iliac area was thin in a spot, so it appears that is the reason for the clot. He slipped & fell on wet tile during our honeymoon & the clot appeared after that. So I guess it was a combination of things. They put a stent in to keep the vein open.

 

[Mr. dB]

My dad's 81 and every time the phone rings my heart stops a beat. He's had at least three forms of cancer -- prostate cancer, skin cancer, and leukemia. The prostate responded well to a "roto rooter" surgery, the skin cancer spots get removed, but the CLL leukemia has run him through the ringer.

Last year he had a squamous cell carcinoma on his scalp that got so big that they had to remove a big section of scalp all the way to the bone. I don't know where they took the skin graft from, probably his butt or his leg, but it's a big ugly yarmulke-shaped bald spot now. He had to have ratiation treatments on his head after that too.

He's on chemotherapy for the leukemia again too.

The rest of him is pretty robust though.

 

[jaded]

My husband will be 45 in October.... Actually he has borderline high cholesterol which I'm worried about, especially after his blood clot 4 years ago....I'm worried about a reoccurance of that....

But, yes, it's disturbing when your parents' health declines -- I lost both my parents before I was 30 and it's very hard.....

I'm sorry to hear that

I think my dad may have borderline high cholesterol as well but I'm not sure. He's been taking better care of himself as of late though, eating healthier, etc. I'm still worried about his health though, and about my mom's as well - she gets her biopsy results back in up to 2 weeks. 2 weeks is a long time to be wondering.

 

[jenscats5]

I'm sorry to hear that

I think my dad may have borderline high cholesterol as well but I'm not sure. He's been taking better care of himself as of late though, eating healthier, etc. I'm still worried about his health though, and about my mom's as well - she gets her biopsy results back in up to 2 weeks. 2 weeks is a long time to be wondering.

The waiting is agony..... Hope all turns out to be OK

 

[jaded]

The waiting is agony..... Hope all turns out to be OK

Thank you sweetie

Oh, by the way...is your location from the movie 'Old School'?

 

[jenscats5]

Thank you sweetie

Oh, by the way...is your location from the movie 'Old School'?

Yep -- you're only the 3rd person to get that.....

Watch the baby! Watch the baby!

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

I hope mine die in much pain.

 

[Fast Twitch Fiber]

I hope mine die in much pain.

Huh?

 

[biteme]

I just came back from my brother's house. When I went to help my grandmother get up out of her chair, I could her her bones cracking in her arms and shoulders. I was afraid that I was breaking her bones. They are so brittle. My dad was in the restroom throwing up and he was scared because he thought he saw blood in the throwup.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

Huh?

It's true

 

[UA_Iron]

not really, my mom's a jock and does triathlons

my dad bikes a lot

I did go home a couple weeks ago and they all were looking kinda fat - my littlest brother included. I think they'll lean out over the summer though.

 

[big4life]

I worry about my mom's health all the time. She still gets around ok, but you can tell that she's slowing down, plus she's 78 years old, so anything can be serious.

My father passed away almost nine years ago from a massive heart attack, but he had been in declining health for several years before that, since a stroke. We only found out after his death that he also had lung cancer, something that he didn't tell anyone for reasons that only he knew.

 

[The Shadow]

All the time....


MY grandfather has his first hearattck in his late 40's.....my dad is now 61....overweight but still gets in the yard and works hard..its my mom, Im concerned with....very very overweight..I try to talk, but I cant even have a conversation with her about it.

 

[Sub-Zero]

no, the sooner they die the sooner i inherit

 

[Pamela]

I sure do too.

My Mom keeps on going though!
She still works a full time job!

 

[Jade19]

I think its natural to worry about your parents health, if they mean anything to you. I worried about my dads situation up until the day he died, then after he passed - I worry everyday about my mothers well-being. Suicide, drugs etc. My sister is the only one that i know keeps her going (shes only 14). My brother and I are adults - my sister and the fact she wants to be in heaven with my father (christian beliefs). She told me today she wishes she was in that box (my fathers ashes) with him.

I love her and I already lost one, anyways sorry to blab on. Be honest with your dad (parents) about your concerns and let them know everyday how much you love them. I understood that fortunatley along time before my father got sick, so he knew i loved him and forgave him for our past. And knew he forgave me. Best wishes

 

[babybodybuilder2.5]

I worrie about my dad all the time. He has soMething called "Marie Charcott Tooth" disease. It is slowly killing off his nerve endings. it's in his legs and hands right now. I can best describe it as extreme neuoropapthy. He will be wolking and his his legs will just give out. Luckily he hasn't fallen in such a way to hurt himself yet. He has no strength in in hand any longer. Sometimes he will loose the grip on his fork, while he eats. It's sad, because there is nothing that can be done for it. He takes pain medication regularly. To top it all off, he also has emphazemia. Yes, he still smokes ....
He has cut back on his smoking. He is 65 and set in his ways. he does not sit around, he acts like his usual self, pushing himself to get the things done that need to be done each day. I'm so proud of him.

BBB

 

[jaded]

Yep -- you're only the 3rd person to get that.....

Watch the baby! Watch the baby!

"Well why don't you give me your number in case anything happens to my wife?"

 

[jenscats5]

"Well why don't you give me your number in case anything happens to my wife?"

Frank the Tank! Frank the Tank! Frank the Tank!

 

[EnderJE]

I don't really worry about it too much. I just assume that both will be dead in 15 years. We're growing apart due to decision made along time ago and there's nothing that can turn back the clock to make it right. Its sad in a way, but I've excepted it.

In the same fashion, I've accepted that my kids will want nothing to do with me in about 19 years. I can't change it, I just assume that the cycle will repeat.

 

[jaded]

Frank the Tank! Frank the Tank! Frank the Tank!

"Well, um, actually a pretty nice little Saturday, we're going to go to Home Depot. Yeah, buy some wallpaper, maybe get some flooring, stuff like that. Maybe Bed, Bath, & Beyond, I don't know, I DON'T KNOW IF WE'LL HAVE ENOUGH TIME!"