Disturbing trend amongst alot of young guys i know that got married.....

[Y_lifter]

Thanks Dear Abby.

No problem Mr WhackItOff

 

[alien amp pharm]

lmao

 

[TC2]

So why'd you go and ruin your own argument with the following sentence?

Let's just all keep this as objective as possible sans denigration.

how does that ruin my argument?

It strengthens my argument because I'm not one of those winey losers that cant get a woman, so they bash women and blame them for everything.

 

[Tytan]

I have like 3 buddies from high school that all had kids young and got married and became these super dad/husbands. Never go out, always with their wife and kid. Work, spend time with them..thats it. well 2 already had their wives leave them , and the 3rd just had his wife say "i want a divorce" . they are all around my age. 25. Now these guys did not cheat, did nothing wrong for the most part.


I have always said this and I think alot of people know it. Women dont want that perfect guy..you need to be kind of an asshole and have an attitude and put them in their place sometimes. I mean you dont need to be shady or evil but I guarantee if your Mr Nice perfect husband it wont last. Especially nowadays and especially with young attractive women! YOu need to have some drama in your relationship..keeps you both interested.

Amen brother, I was one of those guys....married at a young age, worked two jobs to take care of the family, two kids, house, cars, vacation ect.... After 12 years of being a good guy and a good husband I was blind-sided w/ a divorce. Now I`m just doing what I have to do, not being an ass or anything just doing things my way. And the relationships I get into now are perfect. Its probably that way because now its about me first...

 

[alien amp pharm]

...because I'm not one of those winey losers that cant get a woman, so they bash women and blame them for everything.

Hey screw you pal!

 

[Subzeero]

The whole idea of marraige is traditionally forced and is not completely legitimate and divine idea, as it is reinforced by all the major religions.

The requirements to meet for two individuals to "marry" is mind boggling and nonsensical, to an extent in my opinion, that impinges on an individual's rights.

But we all have seen or heard of really successful marraiges, alas we see these relationships in a light we wish to fantasize in. These relationships have a very proper chemistry of both love and friendship associated with them. THEY ARE NOT ALWAYS PASSIONATE AND DRAMATIC TO KEEP THE MARRAIGE GOING.

Believe me, the virtue of friendship in understand and practicality is greater than love. Love is just a stubborn obsession one can't seem to rid themselves of. Unfortunately in most cases individuals don't even meet the ideal criteria of love and they marry.

And finally I believe your friends married a little too early. They were naive and unlearned, but innocent.

Marraige at 16 in eastern societies work, because it is super cemented by the society and family around them, and obviously not what you call "love". For their well being the partners, although not in love, will over time develop friendship and thus they are happier.

One way to be content most of the time in your relationships is to expect the minimum from them. Exactly the opposite is done in western idea of "love". This makes love even selfish. This is true in 99% of the people, whether they like it or not. It is more about them than the people they love.

Anyways, I better stop, I am starting to sound wierd.

 

[Y_lifter]

Also,

MARRIAGE has become a way to financially survive for many people these days.
Takes 2 incomes to have a decent home.

 

[MattTheSkywalker]

The whole idea of marraige is traditionally forced and is not completely legitimate and divine idea, as it is reinforced by all the major religions.

The requirements to meet for two individuals to "marry" is mind boggling and nonsensical, to an extent in my opinion, that impinges on an individual's rights.

But we all have seen or heard of really successful marraiges, alas we see these relationships in a light we wish to fantasize in. These relationships have a very proper chemistry of both love and friendship associated with them. THEY ARE NOT ALWAYS PASSIONATE AND DRAMATIC TO KEEP THE MARRAIGE GOING.

Believe me, the virtue of friendship in understand and practicality is greater than love. Love is just a stubborn obsession one can't seem to rid themselves of. Unfortunately in most cases individuals don't even meet the ideal criteria of love and they marry.

And finally I believe your friends married a little too early. They were naive and unlearned, but innocent.

Marraige at 16 in eastern societies work, because it is super cemented by the society and family around them, and obviously not what you call "love". For their well being the partners, although not in love, will over time develop friendship and thus they are happier.

One way to be content most of the time in your relationships is to expect the minimum from them. Exactly the opposite is done in western idea of "love". This makes love even selfish. This is true in 99% of the people, whether they like it or not. It is more about them than the people they love.

Anyways, I better stop, I am starting to sound wierd.

Did you just take your first philosophy course at university recently?

 

[Turd Ferguson]

There is no such thing as the perfect guy or girl. To be honest I really dont know why people even get married anymore. The divorce rate is over 50% and most men and women cheat on their spouse anyway. It is rare that things are "normal" anymore, but what is normal? The 3 bedroom house with the white picket fence and 2 kids and a dog in the yard? Sorry not today it's not.

O.K. so I'm bitter just a little. I myself like a bit of a bad boy...but I'm pretty wild myself. I dont want mr. perfect I just want to share my life with someone who's my friend. Frendship is soooo important. I'm just not sure I need a piece of paper attached to it.

To me its more about doing what you say your going to do and keeping the promises you make. Anyone in a marriage will tell you that sometimes they don't get along with there spouse. It's about how you comprimise and let the other show you things in yourself that you need to work on or work out with her or him.

 

[Subzeero]

Did you just take your first philosophy course at university recently?

noooo...

but common matt, that is more like anthropology...

sociology maybe.

Nonetheless thanks for the compliment.