Disturbing trend amongst alot of young guys i know that got married.....

[javaguru]

Perhaps you should back the horse up.

What Dr. Phil consistently states is that individuals need to find time for themselves with their SOs to foster and nurture their relationships/marriages because it's an important aspect to any healthy, close relationship. Yes, people need time apart from their kids. HOWEVER, the one thing Dr. Phil promotes, more than any other, is FAMILY FIRST, the most important component which focuses on raising healthy, stable and happy children. It's what you sign on for when you make a decision to bring them into the world, and I completely agree with Erzulie. My kids come first, and they should to any parent. Perhaps any hubby/boyfriend/lover/ with this deep-seated issue should suck that up, and instead of waiting on the sidelines watching and bitching that you're not getting enough attention, throw yourself in it, learn to feel connected instead of threatened, and we'll get to you sooner, ok?

I see that she's one helluva put together Mom who knows what her priorities are, and any man who is worth being with will admire and embrace those qualities.

Guess what, unless mom and dad are healthy NOBODY will be healthy..guess what...putting your children first is detrimental to their development. After your kids are six years old you have next to zero influence on their "real" development, it's all peer influnence. It's obvious you've never raised a teenager.

 

[gonelifting]

Is there a way one can get OUT of a marriage? Thanks in advance.

 

[velvett]

Is there a way one can get OUT of a marriage? Thanks in advance.

No man it's like taxes, even when you die without the proper papers in place someone will still have to clean up the mess you leave behind.

 

[biteme]

I've got an idea. I'll marry all of you single ladies from Elite and we'll all move to Utah where polygamy is legal. We will surely all be famous.

 

[javaguru]

I would expect this kind of bizarre definition of family from an individual who was left alone at the age of twelve so the "societal contributors" of your household went on dates.

It's not your fault.

Enough said.

Honey, it's called being rational and responsible. Women like you are raising "video game" fat ass's who aren't responsible enough to be left alone at eighteen. That's why your kids will live with you until they're thirty.I'm the youngest of six children and my parents realized that an intelligent, well adjusted, and responsible child can handle being alone at twelve. I then became a co-captain of my football team in high school as well as president of the computer club. I have a law degree and have taught myself six computer languages..I joined the army to put myself through school. Please challenge my parents judgement some more because you'll only look like an idiot.

 

[gonelifting]

Even on airplanes they instruct you to put the oxygen mask on YOU first and THEN on your chikld AFTER YOU are OK.

If you give give give until you're falling apart, then what do you really have for your kids? I treat my kids great, but i also need to keep sane and TRY and keep my workouts going and stuff to give me peace of mind because if I'm not happy and I feel depressed, how the hell can I make other people happy? You need a balance in your life. If you don't have that, at SOME POINT you'll crack and it will fall apart. It could be now... or 12 years from now.


I don't neccessarily say the husband/wife is more important than the kids, but I DO SAY the husband/wife is NO LESS IMPORTANT than the kids or anyone for that matter.

I tell my wife all the time... WE are the most important thing in this world. OUR relationship... if we don't have THAT, what can we have? EVERYTHING radiates out from within our relationship, it MUST be sound or nothing else will work.


Does'nt mean I love my kids any less.

 

[javaguru]

I would expect this kind of bizarre definition of family from an individual who was left alone at the age of twelve so the "societal contributors" of your household went on dates.

It's not your fault.

Enough said.

At the end of the day you don't control your children's views. My parents are evangelical Christians, I was raised fundamental Baptist, and I don't belive in a sky deity. So quit playing the role of martyr because your kids don't give a shit.

 

[The Bigdawg]

Even on airplanes they instruct you to put the oxygen mask on YOU first and THEN on your chikld AFTER YOU are OK.

If you give give give until you're falling apart, then what do you really have for your kids? I treat my kids great, but i also need to keep sane and TRY and keep my workouts going and stuff to give me peace of mind because if I'm not happy and I feel depressed, how the hell can I make other people happy? You need a balance in your life. If you don't have that, at SOME POINT you'll crack and it will fall apart. It could be now... or 12 years from now.


I don't neccessarily say the husband/wife is more important than the kids, but I DO SAY the husband/wife is NO LESS IMPORTANT than the kids or anyone for that matter.

I tell my wife all the time... WE are the most important thing in this world. OUR relationship... if we don't have THAT, what can we have? EVERYTHING radiates out from within our relationship, it MUST be sound or nothing else will work.


Does'nt mean I love my kids any less.

Good post GL!!

 

[EnderJE]

Even on airplanes they instruct you to put the oxygen mask on YOU first and THEN on your chikld AFTER YOU are OK.

If you give give give until you're falling apart, then what do you really have for your kids? I treat my kids great, but i also need to keep sane and TRY and keep my workouts going and stuff to give me peace of mind because if I'm not happy and I feel depressed, how the hell can I make other people happy? You need a balance in your life. If you don't have that, at SOME POINT you'll crack and it will fall apart. It could be now... or 12 years from now.


I don't neccessarily say the husband/wife is more important than the kids, but I DO SAY the husband/wife is NO LESS IMPORTANT than the kids or anyone for that matter.

I tell my wife all the time... WE are the most important thing in this world. OUR relationship... if we don't have THAT, what can we have? EVERYTHING radiates out from within our relationship, it MUST be sound or nothing else will work.


Does'nt mean I love my kids any less.

OMFG. A serious post. I've got to hit you up with k.

 

[javaguru]

I would expect this kind of bizarre definition of family from an individual who was left alone at the age of twelve so the "societal contributors" of your household went on dates.

It's not your fault.

Enough said.

Listen, I don't expect a woman to understand logic......