Disturbing trend amongst alot of young guys i know that got married.....

[theoak01]

I can blame women because I've seen it a thousand times before and experinced it myself.

you can mold yourself into the "perfect" man and they will still find fault and a reason for drama.

Now go date a non white american women and the difference is night and day.

i know plenty of women who can say the exact same thing about men,but usually its that the guy gets bored and wants a new piece of ass,when women cheat or leave there is alot more lacking

 

[velvett]

I have always said this and I think alot of people know it. Women dont want that perfect guy..you need to be kind of an asshole and have an attitude and put them in their place sometimes.

While that IS true for a lot of women it is not a great blanket statement as to why marriages or why your friend's marriages failed.

Now these guys did not cheat, did nothing wrong for the most part.

Hard to look into someone else's relationship and know what the weakness are because you will never know what the reality is - you will only have two person's perceived points of view of their own relationship and events that may or may not lead to the breakdown of their marriage.

I think the posts below covered the topic extremely well.

it doesnt have to do with the fact that the guys were too nice, it has to do with the fact that they married too young, women that age have no clue what they want

A lot of peopel get married thinking it's some kind of "answer" that will provide happiness.

people are stupid. and childish. and unrealistic. it's no fun being level headed and intelligent and think about the future when making decisions. I take so much joy in watching marriages fall apart.

I think a lot of people do what they think they're supposed to. From the outside things look perfect but at some people someone realizes that they have a life they don't want. I get that and I also think the younger people marry, the more likely that is to happen. Just a general statement not a rule, I know plenty of exceptions.

i think you're right. most people that age don't really know what they WANT, only what they are supposed to want.

Hammy is exactly right.

Women think they need to be married...kids...house...etc. Society tells us that this is the perfect life and you should do this in your early 20's.

Most women get married to create a life that others will see as perfect on the outside....When they should just relax and find out who they are...what they want...and who they want to be with.

NJ. I have had over 5 friends the same way. You will have more. Most are in their second wives now going through the same thing. (they married younger chicks). One is working on his 3rd at 33

^^^ I just want to add that while society beats into your skull that a woman must be married by a certain age in your life men also fall for the concept that a woman is considered "damaged" in some way and that there must be something wrong with her is she made a choice not to marry young.

 

[GrandMaster]

Women who don't respect themselves don't want to be treated well. They don't like themselvses so when you show that you liket them they resent you. A woman with a strong sense of self wants to be treated well, otherwise they want to be treated like dirt. I was with a girl who tried to get me to hit her, she liked the "honeymoon phase". Her ex used to beat her and she didn't understand how I could treat her so well. She had started to equate him hitting her with him caring deeply about her. She was an object to him. She never got it until it was too late. She left me to go back to him, she ended up in the hospital.

aint it the fuckin truth!!!

 

[TC2]

I'll go a step further...White american women are the only creature ON THE PLANET, that respond BETTER to WORSE treatment.

Really think about that mentality for a min, how fuckin rediculous is that.

How can you ever make someone happy that lacks the ability to think for themselves or even logically?

 

[Dial_tone]

Marriage vows aren't as respected as they once were. Nowadays getting a divorce is taken almost as lightly as breaking up with a gf.

 

[velvett]

Women who don't respect themselves don't want to be treated well. They don't like themselvses so when you show that you liket them they resent you. A woman with a strong sense of self wants to be treated well, otherwise they want to be treated like dirt.

That is absolutely true and while I think men hide it better I do believe that there are men like this too. In general, regardless of sex if you don't have self-worth and respect for yourself no one will either.

 

[Smurfy]

Marriage vows aren't as respected as they once were. Nowadays getting a divorce is taken almost as lightly as breaking up with a gf.

I'm breaking up with you.

 

[slat1]

I am all about taking my time to get married! I only want to do it once if I do it and I want to die married not divorced!

 

[velvett]

I'll go a step further...White american women are the only creature ON THE PLANET, that respond BETTER to WORSE treatment.

Really think about that mentality for a min, how fuckin rediculous is that.

How can you ever make someone happy that lacks the ability to think for themselves or even logically?

I have to disagree, while American woman may very well be worse - couldn't say - I know German, French and Irish women that respond better to abusive relationships.

 

[biteme]

That is absolutely true and while I think men hide it better I do believe that there are men like this too. In general, regardless of sex if you don't have self-worth and respect for yourself no one will either.

I must have too much respect for myself. I think I'm just too old to put up with bullshit.