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Disturbing trend amongst alot of young guys i know that got married.....
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awittyusername
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TC2 said:
LOL I think you are my alter.
I agree 100%. However, it is still our fault. Men kiss their ass's untill they expect it...Men who raise their daughters into spoiled little brats who thinks the world revolves around them, and expect everything to be handed to them are also to blame.
I am all for women being treated equal.....So, lets start doing it!!!!!!!
Keywords are backbone and challenge.
Of course she won't respect you if she knows she can walk all over you. And if you make her long for your affection before giving it to her, it'll keep her on her toes and a relationship from growing stale.
There is a balancing act between too much and too little.
Of course she won't respect you if she knows she can walk all over you. And if you make her long for your affection before giving it to her, it'll keep her on her toes and a relationship from growing stale.
There is a balancing act between too much and too little.
Oh, one of my favorite subjects ...
1. Nobody should marry before they're in their mid to late 20s, short and sweet, male or female. You're still a kid until that age (whether you think you are or not), but you don't realize it until you're in your 30s or so and look back and go, OMG, I was such a kid!!!
2. You can't be each other's WORLD. You need some space from each other, other than jobs. You need outside interests. My first husband was a total PITA, NEVER went anywhere without me, NEVER let me go anywhere without him, felt he had to be my shadow, felt we should do everything together BLECH. DROVE ME NUTS!!! Jesus I felt like I was being smothered. I got SICK TO DEATH of the man. It's nice to miss someone occasionally, and it's nice to have something new to share with each other occasionally. I BEGGED him for space, let me go on a vacation with my mom or friends, he would start nasty ass fights with me, acusing me of things I wasn't doing. I begged him to go do things without me and I'd stay home, he'd come up with excuses ... I knew, KNEW he was smothering me. I was just getting sick of the SIGHT of him. Any hobbies I took up, HE'D do, whether he liked it or not. It was like being married to the worlds most annoying little brother ...
3. Opposites attract, they don't last. While you need to have separate interests and personal space, you must share certain core values.
You don't understand and accept #2 and #3 above until you are no longer #1.
1. Nobody should marry before they're in their mid to late 20s, short and sweet, male or female. You're still a kid until that age (whether you think you are or not), but you don't realize it until you're in your 30s or so and look back and go, OMG, I was such a kid!!!
2. You can't be each other's WORLD. You need some space from each other, other than jobs. You need outside interests. My first husband was a total PITA, NEVER went anywhere without me, NEVER let me go anywhere without him, felt he had to be my shadow, felt we should do everything together BLECH. DROVE ME NUTS!!! Jesus I felt like I was being smothered. I got SICK TO DEATH of the man. It's nice to miss someone occasionally, and it's nice to have something new to share with each other occasionally. I BEGGED him for space, let me go on a vacation with my mom or friends, he would start nasty ass fights with me, acusing me of things I wasn't doing. I begged him to go do things without me and I'd stay home, he'd come up with excuses ... I knew, KNEW he was smothering me. I was just getting sick of the SIGHT of him. Any hobbies I took up, HE'D do, whether he liked it or not. It was like being married to the worlds most annoying little brother ...
3. Opposites attract, they don't last. While you need to have separate interests and personal space, you must share certain core values.
You don't understand and accept #2 and #3 above until you are no longer #1.
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I was that guy, the one who could have married at a young age. I would have treated the girl the exact way you described and I would have been complaining to my friends by 25 about my divorce. I was lucky and saw that entire situation coming before it happened. Guys like me have no business getting married to a young girl, it is just a formula for failure.
Nuthin' wrong with that, as long as it's what you BOTH want 
People change a lot from age 20 to age 30 or even from age 25 to age 35. It's amazing and you dont really realize it until youve experienced it. It's kinda like once you get out of college or get your first real job and youre in your early 20s, you just kinda think, hey this is who I am. But "who you are" still has a lot of progress to make and changes to endure. I think that is partly why a lot of people who marry young tend to grow apart as they get older. At least it's probably one factor.
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