Disturbing trend amongst alot of young guys i know that got married.....

[silverbackn]

The end result is that a relationship isn't 50/50 Its 100/100 either you give that % to making it work or set yourself up for failure.

I was with on man for 11years, alot of things i would have done different, but thats to late to fix. I was and still are a very strong minded woman, I have my own opinon and I make it know, did I expect him to always agree? hell no!

I was the 'do'er' of the relationship, I spoiled him rotten. He was real content in that aspect but still there were other issues. I think alot of my issues were to marry young.. i'd been on my own for a couple years and for the first year together I did what the hell i wanted to do, no matter if he liked it or not. Then kids came along and i let things start changing.... im totally at fault for that. I lived the next years being someone i didn't even reconize. NEVER AGAIN. I may come across here as a bitch, cold hearted .. eh.. and so much more. I am very independant, goal oriented, and a nurturer. But I don't like being walked all over. You give and you take.

I am a very strong willed, strong minded woman. I am open to any discussion, and willing to bend to make things work, but in the end it takes give and take from both.

Every woman wants confidence and a goal oriented strong man. Hell how can you ever feel safe with a man that lets you walk all over him?

I would never tolerate an abusive mate, nor physically or mentally. I need one that is willing to speak his mind. I need one that is confident, independant.

The deal breaker for me is a jealous man. Jealousy is the demise of so many good relationships.

Very good post! I think we can all learn something from it.

 

[thelion2005]

I have like 3 buddies from high school that all had kids young and got married and became these super dad/husbands. Never go out, always with their wife and kid. Work, spend time with them..thats it. well 2 already had their wives leave them , and the 3rd just had his wife say "i want a divorce" . they are all around my age. 25. Now these guys did not cheat, did nothing wrong for the most part.


I have always said this and I think alot of people know it. Women dont want that perfect guy..you need to be kind of an asshole and have an attitude and put them in their place sometimes. I mean you dont need to be shady or evil but I guarantee if your Mr Nice perfect husband it wont last. Especially nowadays and especially with young attractive women! YOu need to have some drama in your relationship..keeps you both interested.

I have watched shurking personal responsibility and the seeking of self-centered happiness become the norm. It has snuck into my family in spite of my efforts. The 'feminist movement" has been the culprit for young women.

The ones who suffer are the children ... today and in the future.

 

[TC2]

I'll be the first to say it, The problem is white american women and their fucked up nothing is ever good enough mind set.

They truly think that the world revolves around them and when they feel like they have gotten all they wanted, they get bored with themselves and start over with some other poor bastard.

 

[nycgirl]

I have watched shurking personal responsibility and the seeking of self-centered happiness become the norm. It has snuck into my family in spite of my efforts. The 'feminist movement" has been the culprit for young women.
The ones who suffer are the children ... today and in the future.

You don't know how much I STRONGLY agree with this. The children are not the only ones that suffer, their mates suffer and the women suffer in the long run (they usually realize it when its too late).

 

[biteme]

Happens to a lot of good guys. Women in general suck. I'll probably marry a foreign bride.

 

[theoak01]

I'll be the first to say it, The problem is white american women and their fucked up nothing is ever good enough mind set.

They truly think that the world revolves around them and when they feel like they have gotten all they wanted, they get bored with themselves and start over with some other poor bastard.

how the fuck can you just blame women? its a two way street buddy

 

[Longhorn85]

I have like 3 buddies from high school that all had kids young and got married and became these super dad/husbands. Never go out, always with their wife and kid. Work, spend time with them..thats it. well 2 already had their wives leave them , and the 3rd just had his wife say "i want a divorce" . they are all around my age. 25. Now these guys did not cheat, did nothing wrong for the most part.


I have always said this and I think alot of people know it. Women dont want that perfect guy..you need to be kind of an asshole and have an attitude and put them in their place sometimes. I mean you dont need to be shady or evil but I guarantee if your Mr Nice perfect husband it wont last. Especially nowadays and especially with young attractive women! YOu need to have some drama in your relationship..keeps you both interested.

Ironically some of these couples spend ridiculous amounts of money on their weddings.

 

[GrandMaster]

NJ: u make some valid points.... but dont even think about marrying a chick if shes under25.....u maybe head over heels in love with her.... but dont go near that subject till the golden 25!

 

[Megalomaniac]

There is no such thing as the perfect guy or girl. To be honest I really dont know why people even get married anymore. The divorce rate is over 50% and most men and women cheat on their spouse anyway. It is rare that things are "normal" anymore, but what is normal? The 3 bedroom house with the white picket fence and 2 kids and a dog in the yard? Sorry not today it's not.

O.K. so I'm bitter just a little. I myself like a bit of a bad boy...but I'm pretty wild myself. I dont want mr. perfect I just want to share my life with someone who's my friend. Frendship is soooo important. I'm just not sure I need a piece of paper attached to it.

Perfect guy right here, perfectly single.

I will clarify this by saying the single part is what makes me perfect, I only need to be perfect for myself by remaining single. I highly advise everyone to put themselves in this situation.

 

[TC2]

how the fuck can you just blame women? its a two way street buddy

I can blame women because I've seen it a thousand times before and experinced it myself.

you can mold yourself into the "perfect" man and they will still find fault and a reason for drama.

Now go date a non white american women and the difference is night and day.