Disturbing trend amongst alot of young guys i know that got married.....

[samoth]

something like

the societal factors that impose conformity on Americans are gender - indifferent?

Now that's thesis-worthy.

 

[samoth]

What's the matter sweetie? Did I hit a nerve?? Feel the need to personally attack somebody?

There goes you entire argument.

I'm good looking, built and have always been able to get pretty much any woman I want.

So why'd you go and ruin your own argument with the following sentence?

Let's just all keep this as objective as possible sans denigration.

 

[alien amp pharm]

Maybe they become bored with you because you're just fucking boring, and you're like the last 27 guys she has gone out with.

That could be likely.

I don't like the typical stuff most females enjoy, like carrying on a conversation. I don't like putting forth effort and be 'smooth' to get them to like me.

I enjoy more adventurous activities and being active. Most girls want to be taken out and be pampered. That's not my idea of fun.

However I don't believe that is where the problem lies. I think it lies with me being too nice and overly respecting the female. THAT is how I become boring to them. I need to step up and be more of a man.

 

[Smurfy]

lol why does "being more of a man" correlate with "being less respectful"?

weird.

 

[alien amp pharm]

lol why does "being more of a man" correlate with "being less respectful"?

weird.

Because being more of a man means taking charge. I need to stop being a pussy and constantly trying to make them happy.

Since females themselves don't know what they want, I will show them what they need.


lol, *puts on verbal shield*

 

[javaguru]

Because being more of a man means taking charge. I need to stop being a pussy and constantly trying to make them happy.

Since females themselves don't know what they want, I will show them what they need.


lol, *puts on verbal shield*

Be self-absorbed and selfish...works like a charm.

Almost forgot, ignore them a lot and only return every 2nd or 3rd phone call.

 

[Frisky]

Because being more of a man means taking charge. I need to stop being a pussy and constantly trying to make them happy.

Since females themselves don't know what they want, I will show them what they need.


lol, *puts on verbal shield*

ON A REAL SERIOUS NOTE!

Stop dating KIDS. Seems to me like your level of maturity, what you want out of life, interests etc aren't the same as the women you tend to be attracted to.

I have no doubt that you can and will find someone, but it will be hard to find that with a 22yr old. Not saying there aren't any 22yr olds that are mature but they are few and far inbetween.

and yes, whoa... I actually said you were mature

 

[Y_lifter]

I think my mindset of generalizing how to treat women is to
treat them like a Queen, and yet still remember that you are the King.

There will be times when she/he will run the show, and times when you will.
Time together will flesh out these rules of order.
And as the couple ages, these rules of order will likey change, so be ready for it.

IMO the reason many long term relationships fail is because one or both of the parties expect things to be fairly perfect, or for them to get their way in decisions.
So when they come up against the first disagreements, they give up instead of working through it.


I love the old saying that marriage is not always a 50%-50% proposition as it was once said.
IMO, it is more like a 100 - 0

Sometimes YOU must be ready to GIVE 100% and get 0
And Sometimes THEY must be ready to GIVE 100% and get 0

All ranges inbetween will come up in life, but you must be able to accept the above.

 

[superqt4u2nv]

Be self-absorbed and selfish...works like a charm.

Almost forgot, ignore them a lot and only return every 2nd or 3rd phone call.

Yeah we love that

 

[alien amp pharm]

I think my mindset of generalizing how to treat women is to
treat them like a Queen, and yet still remember that you are the King.

There will be times when she/he will run the show, and times when you will.
Time together will flesh out these rules of order.
And as the couple ages, these rules of order will likey change, so be ready for it.

IMO the reason many long term relationships fail is because one or both of the parties expect things to be fairly perfect, or for them to get their way in decisions.
So when they come up against the first disagreements, they give up instead of working through it.


I love the old saying that marriage is not always a 50%-50% proposition as it was once said. IMO, it is more like a 100 - 0

Sometimes YOU must be ready to GIVE 100% and get 0
And Sometimes THEY must be ready to GIVE 100% and get 0

All ranges inbetween will come up in life, but you must be able to accept the above.

Thanks Dear Abby.