PickMe69
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I'm in my third year of college, I've been succesful in making friends, hooking up with some sexy colleges girls regularly (though I don't claim to have any amount of "great game" - I merely go after what I want), making good grades, staying athletic (now on the Rugby team)... the list goes on... but what I haven't been succesful in is actually finding someone who'd be interested in dating me...
I feel like I've done everything I could in myself to become a guy girls would want to date. I'm intelligent, I'm told I'm attractive, pretty patient, hard working, confident, outgoing...
I do everything I can to try to meet new people, such as teaching a class at my college, being the Vice President of an Honors Society, playing pick up sports, and now actully playing a Varsity sport... but yet nada.
I wear fairly nice clothes (I mean I am a college student), drive a nice sports car, my hygeine is good...
I've recently been baptised and started going to church (so I'm kinda coming out of the whole "new girl every weekend" thing) and their are some cute girls there I'd like to talk too...
but before I even try to continue into the "dating" relm, I've been dating girls... throughout the week asking girls out, and meeting up on weekends... and I get dates (sometimes), but usually only a couple with each girl... its like I can never get that initial spark moving... I mean I even have sex with alot of these girls, but they never want anything more than that...
I've asked my best friend what he thinks could be the problem, and he said probably because I do have so much going for me, maybe its intimidating... but what? Should I not be trying to achieve these thing...?
I'm respectful, curteous, and kind to these girls... but I'm not your typical nice guy that gets walked on, I know my limits, and confidently pursue these women.
Not gonna lie, I used to think girls wanted to hear my successes and stuff a couple years ago, which obviously came off as bragging (and I KNOW that now - after probably going on dates with over 20 girls), so I knocked that out, started trying to be more about the girls, asking questions about them, engaging into their life... but still don't have a girlfriend...
I usually don't have friends that are girls... if I see a girl I'm attracted too, then I do things to signal my interest and pursue it... I did become friends with one girl, whom I've known for two years, and a couple months ago I tried to see if she would be interested in something more, but she shot me down before I could even finish my sentence...
I don't text or call often, I usually wait a day or two after meeting a girl and getting a number to make the initial contact, I make conscious efforts to avoid coming off as clingy, cause I know thats a killer.
I feel pretty good about myself as a person, but an actual relationship with a girl would be nice...
What am I doing wrong? Or is it just because I am in college? The girls just aren't interested in dating yet?
I feel like I've done everything I could in myself to become a guy girls would want to date. I'm intelligent, I'm told I'm attractive, pretty patient, hard working, confident, outgoing...
I do everything I can to try to meet new people, such as teaching a class at my college, being the Vice President of an Honors Society, playing pick up sports, and now actully playing a Varsity sport... but yet nada.
I wear fairly nice clothes (I mean I am a college student), drive a nice sports car, my hygeine is good...
I've recently been baptised and started going to church (so I'm kinda coming out of the whole "new girl every weekend" thing) and their are some cute girls there I'd like to talk too...
but before I even try to continue into the "dating" relm, I've been dating girls... throughout the week asking girls out, and meeting up on weekends... and I get dates (sometimes), but usually only a couple with each girl... its like I can never get that initial spark moving... I mean I even have sex with alot of these girls, but they never want anything more than that...
I've asked my best friend what he thinks could be the problem, and he said probably because I do have so much going for me, maybe its intimidating... but what? Should I not be trying to achieve these thing...?
I'm respectful, curteous, and kind to these girls... but I'm not your typical nice guy that gets walked on, I know my limits, and confidently pursue these women.
Not gonna lie, I used to think girls wanted to hear my successes and stuff a couple years ago, which obviously came off as bragging (and I KNOW that now - after probably going on dates with over 20 girls), so I knocked that out, started trying to be more about the girls, asking questions about them, engaging into their life... but still don't have a girlfriend...
I usually don't have friends that are girls... if I see a girl I'm attracted too, then I do things to signal my interest and pursue it... I did become friends with one girl, whom I've known for two years, and a couple months ago I tried to see if she would be interested in something more, but she shot me down before I could even finish my sentence...
I don't text or call often, I usually wait a day or two after meeting a girl and getting a number to make the initial contact, I make conscious efforts to avoid coming off as clingy, cause I know thats a killer.
I feel pretty good about myself as a person, but an actual relationship with a girl would be nice...
What am I doing wrong? Or is it just because I am in college? The girls just aren't interested in dating yet?