ssj_vegeta
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Alright here's my situation, I'm 20 and attending college and started class about a month ago. The first day of class I usually like to find a girl that I'm attracted to so i can get to know them better for the rest of the term. I sat down next to a hot spanish looking girl and asked her a question about the course website or something, just as an opener. She asks me something and we get into a conversation. I felt the body language was pretty good, good eye contact, mirroring, touching hair and had an overall nice conversation with little pause or uncomfortable silence.
The next week is pretty much the same (the class is 2 hours, talk during breaks, after class, before class). We starting joking around a bit more about the prof., movie, etc and i feel we are getting closer. The next week is more of the same, except she asked me for my e-mail "in case either of us need help". Anyway, I'm starting to like her a lot more, personality wise and decide next week I'm going to ask her out (yesterday).
Yesterday was more of the same, after class we are talking as we leave the lecture hall and walk to the subway. She's going on about something at work, disregarding that my subway has come so I have to consciously cut her off. I basically say "Listen Steph, I'd like to get to know you better, Do you want to go out sometime?". I felt confident, but didn't keep eye contact, something I usually don't do. I'm about 90% sure that she will say "sure" and we'll exchange numbers, but i was way off. (Forgot to mention shes also 20 and single). She says, instantly, "I can't I have work" *awkward pause for a few seconds* (I'm stunned, was positive she wouldn't give me that type of response, it felt like a flat out no, I probably looked like a deer in the headlights not knowing what to say). To make matters worse I missed my subway and was stuck there for a few more minutes. Than she says "It would have to be during the week", but I felt like it was more of a pity thing. I say "alright why don't I give you my number and you call me when your free". She says "Alright send it to me over facebook". She than starts going on like nothing happened and asks me something about the course.
Before I asked her she was saying something about how shes always busy and works everyday shes off school or something, but come on, not even one evening or night free? Was I completely off understanding our connection and her body language? Should I continue to pursue or is this only a friendly thing? Please keep in mind that we are friends and I'm stuck in the same class with here for a few more months. I have gotten many numbers in the past, or have been given without asking, but she is one that I genuinely liked both physically and personality-wise.
Sorry for the extremely long post, male advice is also welcome.
The next week is pretty much the same (the class is 2 hours, talk during breaks, after class, before class). We starting joking around a bit more about the prof., movie, etc and i feel we are getting closer. The next week is more of the same, except she asked me for my e-mail "in case either of us need help". Anyway, I'm starting to like her a lot more, personality wise and decide next week I'm going to ask her out (yesterday).
Yesterday was more of the same, after class we are talking as we leave the lecture hall and walk to the subway. She's going on about something at work, disregarding that my subway has come so I have to consciously cut her off. I basically say "Listen Steph, I'd like to get to know you better, Do you want to go out sometime?". I felt confident, but didn't keep eye contact, something I usually don't do. I'm about 90% sure that she will say "sure" and we'll exchange numbers, but i was way off. (Forgot to mention shes also 20 and single). She says, instantly, "I can't I have work" *awkward pause for a few seconds* (I'm stunned, was positive she wouldn't give me that type of response, it felt like a flat out no, I probably looked like a deer in the headlights not knowing what to say). To make matters worse I missed my subway and was stuck there for a few more minutes. Than she says "It would have to be during the week", but I felt like it was more of a pity thing. I say "alright why don't I give you my number and you call me when your free". She says "Alright send it to me over facebook". She than starts going on like nothing happened and asks me something about the course.
Before I asked her she was saying something about how shes always busy and works everyday shes off school or something, but come on, not even one evening or night free? Was I completely off understanding our connection and her body language? Should I continue to pursue or is this only a friendly thing? Please keep in mind that we are friends and I'm stuck in the same class with here for a few more months. I have gotten many numbers in the past, or have been given without asking, but she is one that I genuinely liked both physically and personality-wise.
Sorry for the extremely long post, male advice is also welcome.