I just tried to bestow life lessons on my son

[Smurfy]

He just has to get past the akwardness of introducing dates to his 'wierd mumma'....

true. girls will likely be intimidated by big momma. i ask all the tough questions

 

[Sub-Zero]

my kid's a pimp and his confidence is staggering. he wont need any modeling when it comes to having charisma,

good to hear. keep encouraging it. you dont want him growing up to be an EF poster

 

[jh1]

good to hear. keep encouraging it. you dont want him growing up to be an EF poster

lmfao

 

[Smurfy]

 

[Bikini Mod]

I always found that the best *life lesson* conversations happen when you didn't plan on it - walking in the grocery store, driving on the way to school, cleaning up an unexpected mess, etc etc etc. WONDERFUL conversations just come out of nowhere all the time.

Keep talking and listening.

As for your children seeing your weaknesses, therein lies the best opportunity to show them your greatest strengths for it is then that they will see that you are human.

 

[Cal_21]

I'll admit ... my eyes got kinda misty.

just sayin

 

[heatherrae]

LOL @ him asking to go play and you making it out to be some reallly deep message. It sounds like you were boring him.


That is a sweet sentiment, though, lummy. I feel ya.

 

[-SD-]

He will pwn you in athletics but you will forever pwn him with life wisdom and one day he will be old enough to appreciate it all. So make sure you use your wisdom to benefit him the best.

 

[biteme]

and he ended up bestowing one on me.

I was like, "Do you know what the most important thing is?" and he was like "Doing good?" and I was all, yeah, but in the sense of the opposite of evil. I think he meant as opposed to doing poorly.

Anyway I was all do the right thing, try your hardest, etc. And after a bit he said "Can I play now?" And I realized that it's just as important to make time to play.

God, I love that kid. He's nine, going on fourteen. And I'm scared to death of when he's faster, stronger, and/or more coordinated than I am. But I'm also excited to see him succeed.

See, I'm still on that bleeding edge of being invincible in his eyes. You know, the hero worship thing. And one day, sooner rather than later, he's going to have that epiphany that every kid has. The whole "OMG, my dad isn't perfect" moment. AMAF it's kind of surprising that it isn't already happened.

But still, I see in him so many things I don't have. So many ways in which he can succeed in areas that I never could dream of. Athletics, his ability to deal with people. His charisma. And I don't want to ruin it the way I'm ruined. I mean, I do OK, but the level of success in my life is already kind of set. Upper-middle class professional, house in the suburbs, member-for-life of the Rat Race. Not bad, but I know that I could have done much better. "I coulda had class. I coulda been a contender." But I'm at peace with it, so it's time to concentrate on raising the next generation, you know?

The thing is, I don't want to put too much pressure on him. I need him to know that he can be as great as he wants to be, but that it's OK, crucial even, to take time to play.

Ah well, life goes on. And just being a spectator to the development of this exceptional young man is going to be fascinating, to say the least. Being a participant is going to be one hell of a ride. One hell of a scary, precipitous ride. But it's not like someone else is going to do it. So time to roll up my sleeves and get back to it, cos he's asking for attention again.

Props to you. You are a special person.

 

[biteme]

good to hear. keep encouraging it. you dont want him growing up to be an EF poster

LOL. Now, that's funny.