Increase my wifes sex drive? She cant keep up with my cycles

[JaylovesDbol]

We used to have sex twice a day usually (both in our early thirties), but now her libido is almost non existant. Maybe once a week if i am lucky. So now when i am on a cycle its extremely frustrating not to get down to business with her.

Is there anything i can do to increase her libido to match my cycle levels? Estrogen injections or something like that?

I hope that post doesn't sound completely stupid but i am sure many of you are in the same boat as I am.

If theres a female version of Viagra or anything please let me know. Pretty much dying to get her sex drive up to par again

Thanks !

 

[JaylovesDbol]

No one?

 

[musclemom]

There is no version of female viagra, because female libido is even more hormonally complicated than male libido. Additionally, women are WAY more in their heads when it comes to sex, most of us do not compartmentalize sex/life the way men do. I once heard a sex researcher say that you could cut a guys head off and his body would still want sex. With a woman it's almost ALL in the head.

That being said, here is a short list of the NON HORMONE related reasons a woman's libido may not be matching yours:
1. Your expectations might be a bit much -- twice a day, every day, starts to be exhausting once the horny teens and 20s are in your rear view, especially when there are other things that consume physical and mental energy, like work, care for children, dealing with parents and in-laws, chores, and money issues, etc.

2. She's pissed at you or about something in the relationship and consciously or not this is how she's striking at you.

3. She's tired/Her job is wearing her out/The kids are giving her hell/The grass needs cutting/laundry needs washing/garbage needs to be taken out/dishes are piling up/the porch needs paint/the trees need trimming/the car's making a weird noise and any/all of that shit crowds out any thoughts of sex.

Now, assuming everything is totally, ecstatically hunky dory in your lives, and (THIS IS IMPORTANT, IF YOU IGNORE EVERYTHING ELSE, READ THIS) if she says SHE wishes her libido were higher and she's not happy, then she needs to find a doctor who specializes in hormone balance/HRT/antiaging. Doesn't have to be an endocrinologist, in fact, they (and gynos) are well, kind of stupid sometimes.

A physician who knows about women and hormone balance can look at her blood work, listen to her symptoms and work accordingly, safely.

Seriously, female hormone balance is NOT a do it yourself project. And just to clarify, ALL of the following hormones go into female libido (and there's more than these, but these are the big four): Progesterone, Estrogen, Testosterone, Thyroid. The slightest imbalance of the ratios of any of these hormones in relationship to each other, or just abnormal levels, low OR high, could impact libido.

You do NOT, I emphasize DO NOT EVER give a woman extra estrogen willy nilly. And estrogen is not female testosterone. Female testosterone is testosterone, just significantly less than the male body produces.

So the first step in figuring out how to increase your wife's libido is to sit down and talk to her about your sex life.

 

[RedWhiteNBlue]

There is no version of female viagra, because female libido is even more hormonally complicated than male libido. Additionally, women are WAY more in their heads when it comes to sex, most of us do not compartmentalize sex/life the way men do. I once heard a sex researcher say that you could cut a guys head off and his body would still want sex. With a woman it's almost ALL in the head.

That being said, here is a short list of the NON HORMONE related reasons a woman's libido may not be matching yours:
1. Your expectations might be a bit much -- twice a day, every day, starts to be exhausting once the horny teens and 20s are in your rear view, especially when there are other things that consume physical and mental energy, like work, care for children, dealing with parents and in-laws, chores, and money issues, etc.

2. She's pissed at you or about something in the relationship and consciously or not this is how she's striking at you.

3. She's tired/Her job is wearing her out/The kids are giving her hell/The grass needs cutting/laundry needs washing/garbage needs to be taken out/dishes are piling up/the porch needs paint/the trees need trimming/the car's making a weird noise and any/all of that shit crowds out any thoughts of sex.

Now, assuming everything is totally, ecstatically hunky dory in your lives, and (THIS IS IMPORTANT, IF YOU IGNORE EVERYTHING ELSE, READ THIS) if she says SHE wishes her libido were higher and she's not happy, then she needs to find a doctor who specializes in hormone balance/HRT/antiaging. Doesn't have to be an endocrinologist, in fact, they (and gynos) are well, kind of stupid sometimes.

A physician who knows about women and hormone balance can look at her blood work, listen to her symptoms and work accordingly, safely.

Seriously, female hormone balance is NOT a do it yourself project. And just to clarify, ALL of the following hormones go into female libido (and there's more than these, but these are the big four): Progesterone, Estrogen, Testosterone, Thyroid. The slightest imbalance of the ratios of any of these hormones in relationship to each other, or just abnormal levels, low OR high, could impact libido.

You do NOT, I emphasize DO NOT EVER give a woman extra estrogen willy nilly. And estrogen is not female testosterone. Female testosterone is testosterone, just significantly less than the male body produces.

So the first step in figuring out how to increase your wife's libido is to sit down and talk to her about your sex life.

Sorry to bump an old post, but I couldn't resist. Hell of a post for sure! I just don't agree with women using sex like this, but it is true what you have said.

Let me ask you a serious question. Is there ever a time when a woman does want a man just for pure sex, like the man wants a woman? Or does a woman always have to have other motives for sex? Like, love, money, looks,personality, etc.? In other words, can't a woman just want to have good ole fun sex without the man having to be rich, extra buff, etc, etc? Why is it women have to have all this extra b.s.? If you don't mind me asking?

 

[GeorgeBest]

There are some ways to increase female libido here it is:

1. Figs, bananas, and avocados are just a few of the foods known to arouse both men and women simply by their suggestive appearance. But these foods also provide important vitamins and minerals that can potentially increase blood flow to the genitals and promote a healthy sex life.

2. chocolate releases phenylethylamine and serotonin into the human system

3. Take you daily herbs like basil or garlic and Ginkgo biloba, an extract derived from the leaf of the Chinese ginkgo tree, is another herb found to effectively treat antidepressant-induced sexual dysfunction

4. Boost Your Self-Confidence
The way you feel about your body affects the way you feel about sex. An unhealthy diet and lack of exercise can not only cause you to have a poor self-image, but it can discourage you from having and enjoying sex.

5. Stick to One Glass of Wine
Two glasses of wine might be one too many, but one glass of wine is just right. As many of us are familiar with, drinking one glass of wine can put you at ease and increase your desire to be intimate. But too much alcohol can ruin your ability to perform the act, affecting erectile function and the ability to orgasm.

 

[tballz]

pt-141 peptide works on men and women. Check that out!

 

[musclemom]

Sorry to bump an old post, but I couldn't resist. Hell of a post for sure! I just don't agree with women using sex like this, but it is true what you have said.

Let me ask you a serious question. Is there ever a time when a woman does want a man just for pure sex, like the man wants a woman? Or does a woman always have to have other motives for sex? Like, love, money, looks,personality, etc.? In other words, can't a woman just want to have good ole fun sex without the man having to be rich, extra buff, etc, etc? Why is it women have to have all this extra b.s.? If you don't mind me asking?

I wouldn't say that they have underlying motives. Some do, sure, but for the most part women get horny too and if we're in a relationship and are happy with our partners we want to be with them (and plenty of people have angry sex or whatever sex, I guess). Depending on how in her head she is, some women can shut out the noise, some can't. It's hard to get in the mood if all you can think about is the fact you had a shitty day at work or your kid is failing math

And I wouldn't say it's B.S., so much, you have to re-read what I said about sex having a HUGE mental component for women. That component is part evolutionary. Women make a large investment in time and energy in pregnancy. They can't afford to get pregnant with a man who is a bad provider. Being a good provider now a days doesn't mean the same thing as it did 25,000 years ago. Humans evolved making certain decisions instinctively. Women were attracted to the strong alpha males and males were attracted to female with indicators of being healthy mothers. In modern times a successful male looks more like a doctor or lawyer than someone who is fast, strong, physically aggressive. It's the reason behind the whole "bad boy" attraction thing. Logically knowing that the guy who is well employed, kind, stable and maybe even a little wimpy is going to be the better partner in today's society creates a psychological conflict. You have frontal lobes battling hard wired evolutionary instincts. Hope that all makes sense.

Generally speaking, your average woman, in her sexual prime, (PLEASE, note italicized qualifier) assuming good health, under the best of circumstances rarely has a consistent libido. It's because if you look at a woman's hormone profile compared to a man it's like looking at a wave pattern versus the horizon. Healthy men are much more consistent in their hormone production.

Now you do get women with naturally higher testosterone levels. Sometimes that's okay, but sometimes it's an indicator of other underlying health issues (PCOS can cause this condition, but there can be other things going on). When you have a woman that has an unnaturally high testosterone level caused by a hormone imbalance due to some health problem she may have a high drive for a while, several months/years even, but eventually that drops off, usually when other health problems start cropping up.

I could say other things but I gotta fly. Honestly, I have never, never, never used sex in my life to "get" anything. I think it's a shitty thing to do to someone you care about and would A) Hate myself for being that manipulative and B) Would have no respect for any man who allowed himself to be that shallow.

 

[polarbear1134]

Actually there is now female Viagra and it's being reviewed by the FDA for approval.
But more than anything its most likely in her head. Maybe she wants you to do something you don't do, Maybe she's tired, busy with kids, cheating, depressed, stuck in a bedroom rut, etc etc this can all kill her drive.

Article on female Viagra (flibanserin)
http://www.washingtonpost.com/news/...views-of-female-viagra-emerge-at-fda-hearing/

 

[George Spellwin]

The female viagra just got approved the other day: 'Female Viagra' gets FDA approval - CNN Philippines

Hope to see many ladies using it soon...

 

[musclemom]

I CANNOT REITERATE ENOUGH, THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS FEMALE VIAGRA. PERIOD.

There is a nice little article here, for those who have personal stakes in this matter, read it, and anything else you can find about this article. FDA approves "female Viagra": How does flibanserin work? I will say this until I'm blue in the face, female hyposexuality is not a MECHANICAL issue, which is what Viagra and that class of drugs do. Low drive in women is usually mental (not always, but often). THIS DRUG SCREWS WITH BRAIN CHEMISTRY and should only be considered after every single possible physical/social/psychological/relational issues have been addressed and eliminated.

At the very least, read this snippet of the article:

Alas, notwithstanding any risks, this is not Viagra for women. Viagra is an impotence aid used to treat erectile dysfunction. It relies on a simple physical mechanism for a simple physical problem: It sends more blood to the penis to keep it erect. Viagra assumes that sexual drive is present, just not physical ability. In fact, neither men nor women have ever had a pill that does what flibanserin purports to do, which is to address something trickier and altogether more vague: the locus of sexual desire.

Flibanserin works not on the genitals, but on the brain. In fact, the pill was originally developed to treat depression; researchers initially feared it would hurt, not promote, sexual desire. Flibanserin is what's known as a 5HT1A agonist and a 5HT2A antagonist; it shares mechanisms in common with the antidepressant and anti-anxiety drug buspirone (Buspar).* As a 5HT1A agonist, it promotes dopamine release. But nobody’s really sure exactly how it elevates lust. “Flibanserin’s mechanism in the treatment of HSDD is unknown,” according to the FDA briefing.

I'm backing off from this thread, but what I'm telling you men on cycles is that you have to realize something, expecting your woman/wife/mother of your children to want to bang you three or more times a day, every day while you've got more testosterone in your system than you did when you were 16 is not reasonable or sustainable.