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 SEX DRIVE AND AS
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Amateur Bodybuilder 
Posts: 117 |
I HAVE ASKED THIS QUESTION ON THE ANABOLIX BOARD, AND THOUGHT THIS WOULD ALSO BE A GOOD PLACE FOR SOME HELP. IM STARTING MY 7TH WEEK OF DECA. BEEN OFF THE REF FOR 1 1/2 WEEKS. SEINCE I HAVE BEEN OFF OF THE REF I WANT SEX 24/7. BUT THE PROBLEM IS MY WIFE DONT. ATLEAST NOT NEARLY AS MUCH AS I DO. SO MY QUESTION IS WHAT CAN MY WIFE TAKE THAT WILL MAKE HER HORNY AS HELL. SO FAR I HAVE BEEN TOLD THAT VIAGRA WORKS. WARLOC P.S. I ALWAYS TRY TO PLEASE MY WIFE ALSO. SO THIS IS NOT JUST FOR ME. ------------------     | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 117 |
COME ON GIRLS COULD YOU PLEASE HELP ME OUT WITH THIS. ------------------ | ||
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Cool Novice 
Posts: 22 |
Damn that AS must be making you horny...I dunno...make her dinner and buy her flowers??? ...not the answer you wanted, but if you act sweet to her...which you should always...she will act sweet to you. Dark | ||
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Cool Novice
Posts: 49 |
Sorry, but this ISN'T the place to seek advice on how to make your wife horny just because you've screwed around with your hormones!! That's YOUR problem, not hers or ours. | ||
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Moderator 
Posts: 1198 |
Ouch, Litloak! Anyways, if you want to make her horney, start her out on a bit of test.... hehehehe, most of the women KNOW what I'm talking about here. ------------------ Lobo | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 117 |
WARLOBO, I JUST MIGHT HAVE TO DO THAT BRO. DARKANGEL, I ALWAYS TRY TO TREAT MY WIFE GOOD. LITLOAC, WELL IFIGURED THIS WOULD BE ONE OF THE BEST PLACES TO ASK, BESIDES MAYBE SHE WANTS A BOOST IN HER SEX DRIVE. SHE HAD MY SECOND BABY 4 MONTHS AGO AND NOW HER HORMONES ARE ALL OUT OF WACK. ------------------ | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 115 |
Now we get to the real problem.. if she just had a baby she may not want sex again for say maybe 6 years - just joking. If she is breastfeeding DO NOT give her anything such as test or even herbal to boost her sex drive. Seriously, she is probably exhausted most of the time and it will take awhile for her to get back to normal and it is something that you will just have to put up with. | ||
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Moderator
Posts: 1198 |
Dude, give her a break. It will take a few before things get back to normal. ------------------ Lobo | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 117 |
THANX BRO, I DO UNDERSTAND, ITS JUST A BIT ROUGH... ------------------ | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder 
Posts: 717 |
Hey WARLOC, why don't you try increasing YOUR dose of Deca? Try doubling it and see if that doesn't slow you down a bit...... | ||
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Moderator
Posts: 576 |
Brotha Warloc you say your wife just gave birth to your SECOND baby four months ago? How old is your first? The reason that I'm asking is because perhaps she didn't take as long to recover from the first, so maybe you're thinking, "How come it's taking longer this time around?" (I'm just guessing - if this isn't a problem, just go on.) The more children she carries and gives birth to, the greater the demands on her both physically and emotionally. She not only has a newborn to care for, but a toddler (or preschooler) as well. Her body will take longer to recover, especially if she had them close. She probably has an entire host of other stuff on her plate as well. "How come this is so much more difficult than the last time?" "Perhaps I bit off more than I can chew." "I want to be with (sexually and emotionally) my husband but how do I balance the desire to please him with my desire to do what I want to do and WHEN I want to do it?" and so on. I'm not saying these apply to you, but you seem like a man who has a genuine affection for his wife both as a lover and as the mother of his children. Men feel that when their is a physical connection (sex) that all is well with the relationship - whereas women more often feel that the physical connection can not happen until all is well with the relationship. Again, Let me repeat - NONE of this may apply to you. And if it doesn't, WONDERFUL! But the dynamics of a marriage are greatly changed with the event of the birth of a child and keep changing each time another is born. Men usually have a more difficult time expressing this. Perhaps, in your case, it is merely a differing amount of sex drive. If this is the case - just try to find "other" outlets for your drive. And ,of course, I'm talking about outlets that are acceptable WITHIN the confines of your marriage. Hope this helps. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 164 |
Not to sound rude bro but why don't you just jerk off? | ||
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Moderator
Posts: 1198 |
Hah, good one X, that was my next suggestion! And I think we need a vitural couch for BMom, that was quite the psychological response ------------------ Lobo | ||
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Novice 
Posts: 1 |
GO BIKINI MOM!!!! As the momof a toddler and the wife of an always horny husband I wouldn't mind some sex drive increasing tips tho. I have a sex drive, it's just in park!  ------------------ | ||
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Moderator
Posts: 576 |
well Wndycndy - do you think your drive is in "park" because of physical factors - current fitness level not were it should be, exhaustion from mind-numbing stay-at-home-never-ending-nobody-thanx-you-when-you-do-it-but-they-sure-as-heck-B&M-when-you-didn't-do-it stuff, or is it more emotional (refer to the stay-at-home stuff or gotta-career-but-I-still-gotta-do-the-child-rearing-and-never-ending-nobody-thanx-you-when-you-do-it-....stuff), how much do I take for myself w/o feeling like I am taking from my hubby and child(ren)? I don't have any degrees in psychology just some life experience. But if it is the fitness aspect of your life that is lacking - YOU'VE COME TO THE RIGHT PLACE! Studies show that an increase in physical fitness (diet) will improve your overall quality of life! We are all of us in a constant state of evolution - thus we are experiencing "growing pains" (if you will) and we don't even know it. It is so difficult to maintain and nurture a marriage and child(ren) and ourselves while all of this is happening. We spend most of the time wondering, "If we have it all - how come we are so DAMNED miserable? (Well, maybe not miserable - but not as happy as we could or thought we would be.) OK - Now that I have strayed WWAAAAAYYYY Off Topic - maybe not, usually when it comes to questions about sex BOTH sexes are involved (unless we are not talking about hetero relationships and I do not have any experience or advice here). I can not give a man's point of view, but perhaps by giving MY woman's point of view, I can help the men. Or at least help them to begin a dialogue with their partner. Just throwing some ideas out there - whatever, the problem or discrepency may be - COMMUNICATION with each other is VITAL...and of course, a competent counselor is worth his/her weight in gold! | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 117 |
BIKINIMOM- WOW THANX FOR THE HELP. MY OLDEST IS 3. SO THE ONLY TIME MY WIFE AND I ARE ALONE TOGETHER IS AT NIGHT WHEN THE KIDS GO TO BED. BY THEN SHE IS USUALLY PRETTY WHIPED OUT. MY 3 YEAR OLD GOES NON STOP. MY WIFE JUST STARTED GOING TO THE GYM WITH ME ON MONDAY. SHE HAS NEVER WORKED OUT. SO IM STARTING HER OFF VERY SLOW, BUT I THINK THAT THIS WILL HELP OUR RELATIONSHIP IN THE LONG RUN. IT WILL GIVE US A LITTLE MORE TIME TOGETHER, HELP HER DEAL WITH LIFE BETTER AND SO ON. ANYWAY THANK YOU FOR YOUR HELP. ------------------ | ||
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Moderator
Posts: 1198 |
Excellent, you on the right track now! ------------------ Lobo | ||
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Moderator
Posts: 576 |
Good Man - Brotha Warloc! Not only will you two be able to spend more time together w/o CONSTANT interruptions from a sweet but incessantly chattering 3 year old who wants mommy and daddy to pay attention to ONLY him/her and NOT to each other!!!!....(very normal).....but you will have the added bonus of a new shared interest, she will feel better about herself not only physically as she becomes stronger and more fit, but emotionally as well, because now she gets to do something for HERSELF! It's really wise of you to go easy on her. Correct and teach her w/gentleness when she needs - don't try to chide and push - she's new and the QUICKEST way to turn your partner off to all of this is to make her feel like you are belittling (sp?) her efforts by constantly correcting her. Use praise when she does something right instead of only pointing out her mistakes (ie form and such). As she becomes more proficient, you can get as hard on her as SHE needs - because you are already close (as I can see from your posting) this will be easier on the one hand because you already know each other's quirks and idiosyncrasies, but it can be a double-edged sword as it is sometimes most difficult for us to take instruction of criticism from those that we are closest too: our mates!...Be careful and TALK, TALK, TALK!!!...oh yes, and LISTEN, LISTEN, LISTEN!!!! Good luck to you both!....and tell her to get her tuschie logged on. There are so many people here, each with gobs of knowledge and certainly many w/fortes in (I venture to say) every aspect of fitness! | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 117 |
I WISH THAT I COULD GET HER LOGED ON HERE BUT WE DONT HAVE A COMPUTER AT HOME. I JUST GET ON THIS SITE WHEN I COME TO WORK. BUT IM SURE THAT I WILL BE VISITING THIS ROOM OFTEN WITH QUESTIONS FOR HER. ITS GREAT TO SEE THAT THERE ARE MANY OLDER WOMEN ON THIS SITE WITH AS MUCH ENTHUSIASM AS THEY HAVE. MY WIFE IS 26. AND HAS PUT ON ALOT OF WEIGHT SEINCE WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED. SO WE HAVE A LONG ROAD AHEAD OF US ,BUT I KNOW SHE CAN DO IT WITH SOME ENCOURAGEMENT, AND GUIDANCE. ------------------ | ||
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Novice
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All I know is I'm horney 24/7. Taking no roids, only protein shakes and doing cardio everyday. Geting that blood circulating everyday is what I think does it. Lack of energy is the only reason I would say no, and even then I can be persued very easy to find a burst of energy left | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 115 |
Warloc, I know what it is like to have a long road ahead of you - I have lost 50# of fat since the first of the year and am estimating that I still have 15-20 to go before I am as lean as I want to be. It is amazing that a year ago I would have been thrilled with the body I have now but my perception has changed and it is just not acceptible. If there is any way that she can access this site please have her do so - even if you have to invest in an inexpensive computer. First of all she will get good information - not the crap you read in womens magazines, she will get encouragement and after awhile she will almost feel that she is answerable to the board - I never eat sugar that I don't think God I hope Lobo doesn't find out about this. Also know that if she has a long way to go it is overwhelming at first to try to do the diet and training that most of the people here do - I started out walking 30 min a day and tried to cut some of the fat out of my diet and gave up the pepsi. Next I added the weight training although if I had known then what I know now I would have done the weight training first. There are some very qualified folks on here who will assess her current condition and give you a step by step how to. You should also be aware that you may create a monster - I was zero maintenance when I started and now between the hair, the makeup, the dermatologist, the manicurist and the lingerie bill...oh and I almost forgot my 50# present which was a $380 tattoo, well, let's just say my hubby is feeling a little broke but he isn't complaining that much about it. I will not give her advice as I am not qualified to do so but will give her all the encouragement in the world. | ||
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Moderator
Posts: 1198 |
Kudoos Temple - may the force of the wolf pack be with you  ------------------ Lobo [This message has been edited by WarLobo (edited August 23, 2000).] |
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